stop worrying what everyone thinks
I will not allow anyone to walk in my mind with dirty feet. — Mahatma Gandhi
Many of us spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think. I don't have immunity, or a remedy.
I am, by nature, a people-pleaser. While this isn't inherently bad, it has been the cause of a great deal of stress over the years, allowing others (and sometimes their dirty feet) to occupy space and time in my mind. The line between consideration for others and toxic concern for how they perceive us can be razor thin. I think most people want to be liked and considered with some degree of esteem. However, the reality is that as imperfect people, living in an imperfect world, there is nothing we can do that will keep everyone happy. So, that shouldn't be an aspiration.
While not completely free from this worry, as I've gotten older, this seems to be less of an issue for me. Maybe wisdom (doubtful). Ignorance (more likely). Or, I've figured out whose opinions matter to me.
I'm not advocating for a flippant disregard for the thoughts and feelings of others. How we treat people -- friends, family members, colleagues, and strangers -- matters. However, it is wise to approach our interactions with reasonable expectations. Focus on what is within our control. The happiness of another person isn't on this list (but, kindness is).
Assume the best in others. Listen. Be thoughtful. Act with integrity. Accept responsibility for your words and actions. If necessary, apologize.
Then...move on without worry.
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